The Reset Routine: Why do We Fail? The Art of Acceptance, How to Face Failure and Start Over Again
Do you like planning your day? Are you also someone who creates a whole week's schedule of your task? And sometimes monthly? If you are just like me, or most of the OCD people out there, you also probably encounter a lot of resets every time! Organizing is a hobby for others. But for us, it is a necessity. From the environment, we work on the tasks given to us. We want everything in order. Most people like working in cramped places because even a study says most people became more creative in these situations. Research says geniuses tend to be more productive working in a cramped area. But I do believe that the 'cramped' they are talking about are full of things that just make sense on what they are dealing with. For instance, an artist prefers a place where they can lay all their art materials everywhere because they will have a sense of connection to the place they are working at. For scientists, working in a lab with a bunch of paperwork related to their studies and whiteboards full of equations works better for them. But if you are going to understand their situation, they didn't plan it to be like that, it just happened. And they wanted it to stay that way.
Unfortunately, no matter how we tried to organize our schedule to meet daily ends, we are still vulnerable to failure. And the worst nightmare for us is to
miss one of these tasks because of the inevitable, domino effect. This effect simply means that the moment we fail one, the following tasks after it would too. It is inevitable because it is prone to changes. A lot of unprecedented things could happen in our lives. We cannot be ready in these circumstances simply because there is no way we could see these coming. But all of these just simply happened. So what should you do now?
The moment we fail has these striking feelings. We are surprised no matter how much you deny it to yourself that you see it coming. Because you still give it a shot hoping it would work. And once it didn't, you are all surprised. We all do. There is simply nothing wrong. We fail because we try. We try because we think we can. We can because we should. And when you read these backward, it still makes sense. So what should you do now? Your organize life has been disturbed by unexpected inevitable forces of nature. It could either be by a human factor or just anything the universe could throw. Nevertheless, the only option you've got is to accept that it happened. Acceptance is the hardest yet the first thing you should do after failing. Accepting is difficult. It takes a lot of time. But if you prioritize it you will find yourself having peace in no time. Peace is the fruit of acceptance. You can only say that you already fully accept failure if you have finally gained that lost peace. And once the peace is there, your next major step is ready - reset.
We have talked about the power of resetting in our past blogs. But this time we highlighted the power of reset during your greatest downfall. They said that the difficult part is the beginning. But do you know what's hardest than it? To start over again. Because the constant fear of 'what if I fail again' will haunt you throughout your journey. You will find yourself lost before the race starts again. You will question your running skill. You will doubt from beginning to end. But the good side of reset is now, you know the rules. You know which rules to take and which rule to change. Change the rule? Even before we were born, there are norms created ahead of us, but that doesn't you should follow all of them. You should be keen on which to follow because these norms are all opinionated. Some could hurt other people for the benefit of other people. The point is, that the reason why you can not achieve a goal is maybe that some norms are holding you back. Note these norms that neglect your freedom and disregard them on your next race.
Resetting is a beautiful but painful thing. Is it worth it? Yes, indeed. Nothing feels better when you know that you've given your best in everything you set your eyes to. When you've come to this realization, that is when you can finally say, "I won."